23 things I learned at 23

I turned 24 last week and that really got me thinking… what have I learned this past year? My 23rd year was a HUGE year in my life. I met some amazing new friends, became an auntie, found a new career, started taking fitness seriously and met my guy. I’ve learned A LOT this past year, but I’ve narrowed it down to share 23 things I learned at 23 with you.

1. I am capable of loving and being loved

For the longest time, I thought I was unloveable and I didn’t think I could love someone else either. But, my hearts opened up this year and taught me that caring for someone is a feeling that I love and want in my life. I’ve also learned that I’m a pretty good catch and I should start thinking that.

2. Happiness is a way of life

Happiness isn’t just an emotion. You can CHOOSE to be happy. This past year I’ve focussed on becoming a more positive and uplifting person. Deciding to see the positive in every day has made me a happier person. Choose happiness next time you start thinking negatively.

3. Good men do exist

He’s out there and you will find him when the time is right. Until then, focus on yourself because you need to love yourself before you’re capable of loving another human.

4. anxiety is beatable

23 was the year I asked for helped with my anxiety. I went to a doctor and told them I wasn’t okay. I’ve been taking the steps to beating my anxiety and I’m happy to say I’m not anxious at all anymore. If I can beat the horrible beast that anxiety is… you can too!

5. Not all friends last forever

You will outgrow people and people will outgrow you. that’s okay because that’s life. Try not to be bitter. Instead, cherish the times you did have together because they were amazing moments at the time.

6. Buy more plants

Fill your home with greenery. Your air will be clean and you will feel cozy. If you’re worried about them dying, start small with a cactus or an aloe plant.

7. Stop saying sorry for everything

Plain and simple. Stop apologizing for everything and anything. If you did something wrong, say sorry. If you hurt someone’s feeling, say sorry. But if you’re saying sorry just for the sake of apologizing, stop that.

8. You can’t decide if you hurt someone’s feeling

Louis C.K said it best… “When a person tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.”

9. Appreciate where you are in life

2016 has been a year of working on myself and focusing on my career. It’s been a year of amazing friendships with amazing women and spending a lot of time with loved ones. I’ve hiked mountains, explored #BritishColumbia, drank a lot of wine, ate a lot of cheese and even slept in a Jeep for a night while stuck on an island. I’ve learnt how to love myself and how to become more positive and optimistic. 2016 has been the best year of my life and I’m so proud to say that. I’ve battled my mental health and I’ve won. 2017 will be another year of self-love and becoming more selfless. I live in the most beautiful province in Canada, I have the loveliest friends and an amazing job. Cheers to a wonderful year! I cannot wait to see what 2017 has in store for #TheBookofMolly. Time is precious. Use it wisely ?

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When you blink, you’re going to be five years older. You may have a new job and you may even live in another city. Who knows?! So, since the future is completely untold… appreciate where you are now. Appreciate the city you live in, the people you’ve surrounded yourself with and appreciate your thoughts.

10. Live in the moment

Stop worrying too much about the future (although pay attention to #19. There’s only a certain amount of things you can plan for, so plan for those, but then live in the moment. Wake up every day and smile and be thankful for the present day. Since I started living in the moment, my positivity has skyrocketed.

11. Digital detoxes are a necessary

I love a good digital detox. I talk about them all the time. Unplugging from the digital world and getting outside will do you mind, body and soul wonders.

Read more: Getting Rid of Digital Data 

12. You can and will be replaced

It’s harsh I know, but it’s true. Someone will take your place as the best friend, someone will hold your old work position, someone else will be prom queen and yearbook editor. We all move on.

13. You will meet and associate with bad people

While there are SO MANY amazing people, you will run into a few bad apples. Deal with them professionally and try to keep the peace. It will be easier if you do.

14. No one really knows what they’re doing at 23

Honestly, no one knows what they’re doing. We all have these grand plans, but they’ve probably all changed completely in the matter of a year or two. Hell, my “future plan” is nowhere near the same plan I had when I finished college. So, don’t sweat it and remember to fake it until you make it!

15. Listen to your body

Your body will tell you when it needs a break. It will tell you when it needs more protein, more sleep or when you’re dehydrated. Your body is an amazing creation and it would be foolish not to listen to it.

16. It’s okay to buy the chips sometimes

Life is short. Treat yourself.

17. Exercise regularly

Help your body live up to its potential. Your body and your mental health will thank you once you start exercising regularly. If the gym isn’t your thing, try at home youtube videos or going for a hike.

18. Pay your bills on time

There is a “pay by” date for a reason. Pay your bills on time or risk the option of worsening your credit. No one wants bad credit!

19. Start saving for your future/retirement

This is something I’ve just started doing (hence why I’m writing about it now). It’s been a huge accomplishment to see money start to pile up in my RRSP account. It may not be much now, but it’s better than nothing.

20. Sit up straight

Are you slouching right now? Fix your posture.

21. Hold onto your inner child

I love the excitement I have when I see wildlife or that giddy feeling when visiting an arcade. There is always time for silliness and letting loose.

22. Do NOT settle

Not with boys, with jobs or with friends. Don’t settle for mediocre because you’re incredible.

23. Let it go

It happened and it may have sucked, but you can’t do anything about it now. Holding a grudge will only hold you back in the future. Breathe in and allow all anger and tension to leave your body.

I have been growing into the woman I want to be. This means I have also been outgrowing many things. As the old petals of who I used to be fall to the ground, I’m excitedly growing new petals and traits that I love. I’ve outgrown thinking only negative thoughts about myself. I’ve outgrown my fear to follow my dreams and instead I’m actively running towards them. I’ve outgrown the people who leave me drained. I’ve outgrown trying to please everyone. I’ve outgrown society saying I cant be a strong, fierce woman while still being genuine and kind. Instead… I’ve grown to love myself, my body, my mind and those I surround myself with. Spring has sprung and so has my heart and soul. #ThebookofMolly #Tuesdaythoughts

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As you can tell, I learned a lot of really valuable things this past year. I’ve grown as a woman, a daughter, an employee, a friend and a girlfriend. I’m going to revisit these 23 things throughout my 24th year to remind myself to always move forwards and not backward.

I cannot wait to post the 24 new things I learn this year. Cheers to another year of personal growth and development.

Let your dreams be bigger than your fears & your actions be louder than your words.

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    April 26, 2017 at 4:37 pm

    Love this post! These are some really great lessons. I love the plant one. I’m terrified of keeping plants alive.

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    April 27, 2017 at 2:13 am

    Happy belated birthday! Those all sound like great lessons to learn. I think it’s important that you didn’t just focus on good lessons but tough ones too – like you can and will be replaced. Love this list!

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    Charley Reese
    April 27, 2017 at 1:34 pm

    Wonderful post and love the Louis C.K reference! How true

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