Last night I went to a burlesque class with two of my girlfriends in Thompson. I used to highland dance, as well as took ballet classes when I was younger, but burlesque was a whole new portal for me to discovery.
When I first got to the class I was intimidated and nervous because there were so many fit dancers in the room, but I soon warmed up to the idea of letting go of any judgments and just focusing on my dancing.
We started doing different moves, and at one point we had to strut across the dance floor in groups of threes, and that’s when my wall finally broke down, and I started to feel comfortable, and maybe even a tad bit sexy.
The instructors taught us a dance, and we practiced for a long time on it, and when the class was done, I was sweating, but I felt great.
There was every type of woman in that studio, with different abilities, and just making the routine their own, it was an empowering setting.
After the class I went and had tea with Emily and Harlie. These two girls always impress me with their thoughts, ideas and how their minds work.
When I got home I made a list of ways to feel the way I felt last night; confident, empowered, and sexy.
Do something that scares you
I was so scared to go to the class, I almost dipped out, but I went because I knew at the end I would be feeling a completely different way. When you get out of your comfort zone, that’s when you really start to live and experience life.
Whenever I’m feeling blue and want to feel more confident and sexy I put on nice clothes. They don’t have to be expensive, but I’ll just switch it up from my normal blue jeans and a hoodie. I’ll wear a nice shirt, and a necklace and put on some makeup, and it instantly makes me feel like a girlboss. (Red lipstick does this too)
Hang out with empowering people who lift you up
I don’t see Emily and Harlie a lot because life gets in the way sometimes, but whenever I do I feel so good. Being around people who don’t suck the life out of you is so important. When you’re around happy people, who are confident in whom they are, their confidence can rub off on you. These girls do that for me.
Rid your life of the bad
I’ve always had a problem with confidence, but I’m starting to really come into my own. I’ve been able to do that because I’ve figured out what makes me nervous/anxious and not confident, and I have done those things until I can conquer them.
I dislike big crowds and parties because I get shy, and I feel very judged. I decided that when I go out, I’m going to talk to strangers, and be the one to strike up the conversation. I’ve chosen a career where I’m always going to be going to events, that way I can break out of my shell. I’ve decided to fake it until I make it; because eventually I’ll just become the confident female I aspire to be.
Lastly on this note, eliminating people from your life who don’t lift you up, and make you feel good is completely okay. You choose who you want in your life, and you choose who has the right to stay connected with you. No one has time for people who don’t do this.
Go to burlesque class or dance class
I’m serious… GO! It will do incredible things for your mind and soul. During the one hour class I felt so connected to my body, and the way it moves, and I could feel every single area of my body working its magic.
I popped my booty for an hour, and it popped the confidence right out of me, and it shined bright in that mirrored room full of incredible women, working their own magic.
Believe in yourself so strongly that the world cant help but to believe in you too.