Eye Contact

Looking into the eyes of someone I think is one of the most intimate things you can do.

When you lock eyes with someone a whole different emotion is felt. It’s a tingly sensation down your spine, and the feeling and thought of a real connection made with someone. It doesn’t have to be romantic eye contact, but any eye contact at all.

I’ve noticed in the past year people don’t make eye contact. Whether it be because they’re on the phone whilst talking or they just can’t seem to stare into someone’s eyes, but I don’t like it. Eye contact is a showing of communication and of the want and desire to be speaking with that person.

Being a journalist I’ve interviewed a lot of people, and that’s how I’ve noticed that eye contact is a dying thing. I find it incredibly comforting and let’s be honest a bit sexy when someone can stare right into your eyes and not have to look away.

Since noticing the lack of eye contact I’ve started tracking it. The majority of people who don’t make eye contact with me are people passing me by on the streets, so I made myself a deal. I told myself that whenever I passed someone on the street I would look at them in the eyes and I would say hello.

Don’t get me wrong, I had a tendency to look down while walking by someone on the street. I can make perfect eye contact during a conversation but the street was a whole different story. I wanted to test myself and better myself, but also maybe make others think about eye contact too.

Other than just staring at them I thought a simple hello might make their day. I love when people say hello to me on the street!

Since starting this task about two weeks ago I’ve had a few hellos, a few stare backs without a hello, but mostly people still look down at the ground. It hurts my heart to think that a perfectly normal stranger can’t look up and say hello to someone. What is our world coming to? Why aren’t people friendly anymore?

My walk to work is about ten minutes and while walking to work I usually pass about ten people. There is one group of people I pass every single day that always greets me with a hello, and it’s a group of homeless men.

They’re the highlight of my morning walk because I know I will get a friendly hello back, and they always leave me smiling.

So when you’re walking down the street the next time, look up and say hello, you never know when you’ll brighten someone’s day.

Eyes are the windows into a person’s soul.

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    November 16, 2015 at 6:59 pm

    You’re totally right, what an interesting observation. I think it’s probably because of our reliance on technology for social interactions?

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    Laina Turner
    November 16, 2015 at 7:39 pm

    Love this post. A glance and a smile can go so far.

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    November 16, 2015 at 7:48 pm

    There is such truth to this. It’s ridiculous how many people just don’t live in the moment anymore. Everyone’s lives are so busy that they are too involved in their own thoughts to look around and take in the beauty of the day or moment. I am definitely guilty of this myself and it has been something that I’ve been working on for awhile. Great post and thanks for sharing!

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    November 16, 2015 at 11:15 pm

    This is so true!! I always try and smile to people I pass while on my runs and maybe 50% actually look back and make eye contact. It’s sad 🙁 We are all desiring connections but only getting them virally.

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    November 17, 2015 at 8:33 am

    Love this post! Eye-contact with strangers is becoming more and more taboo, which is such a shame – sometimes a smile from a stranger can make or break your day.

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    November 18, 2015 at 11:08 pm

    I love this post and will start challenging myself to do the same. I both think its awesome and a bit weird when someone here in the states looks me in the eye and says hello while walking down the street. While if I were in Mexico I would think nothing of it. It’s part of the culture there, everyone says “Buenos Dias” and looks you in the eye in the morning. What a difference a fence makes.

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