Life has been hard lately and there’s a lot going on that I’m not able to solve. It’s heartbreaking and unfair.
A couple of weeks ago, during a course I’m taking, the teacher asked us to check off any of the statements that resonate with us about being burnt out.
I checked off 13 of the 15 items and tears filled my eyes. In this room full of strangers, I knew that I was burnt out. I bit off more than I could chew and it was brought directly to my attention.
Now, burn out isn’t this foreign thing to me. I’ve experienced it quite a lot in the past. Whether it be from saying yes to too much freelance work to overbooking myself with coffee dates, catch-ups and hangouts.
I’ve gotten a lot better at becoming aware of it and doing the things to eliminate it from taking over.
So, this is me, writing these promises to myself to help with my current life burnout.
I promise to have more compassion for myself.
To say no to people in order to say yes to me. For the past two weeks, I’ve said no to a lot of friends because I just couldn’t handle social interaction. I said no in order to be able to go home, enjoy my space and slow down.
I often feel guilty about that, but I know my friends will understand in this season of life. I also know that it’s important to say yes to myself. My friend told me the other week that I’m too busy and have no spare time. She casually brought it up in a joking way but it sat me with. Deep in my heart. So deep that I had to talk to Matt about it.
I do better in life at a slow pace. I want to have spare time.
TO HELL WITH THE HURRY.
If I know that I grow more, love more and am more present when I slow down, why am I always speeding up? I promise to have more compassion for myself. To honour what I need and to be thankful for the home that I have and want to spend time in.
I promise to sit in silence and listen.
I’ve never been a religious person, but I’ve always searched for a community where I was understood. I thought it could be the church at one time because whenever I hear of community, I hear of church. But, I didn’t fit in when I was there. This past year I’ve found that the community I’ve been looking for is yoga.
I’ve practiced yoga since high school, but I’ve been in a long-term relationship with it for the past two years. This year my vision board was FULL of yoga-related things.
Looking at it now I realize how much I’ve devoted to my practice this year. I feel like the truest version of myself when I’m at the yoga studio. I love my body and its’ ability when I’m in a posture. I feel part of something when I’m at Modo, attending workshops or experiencing a yoga festival.
The feeling I have once I finish a yoga practice, or after I sit in silence is the feeling I want to embody always. I know this, but I don’t make it a priority. I promise to sit in silence and listen for the answers I’m searching for. I know I’ll find them when I’m embodying this way of life that I love so dearly. On and off the mat.
I promise to prioritize real-life.
I truly believe that the way I use social media is hurting my life more than I want to admit. I use social media to shut down my mind after a full day of creativity at work. I use social media to run away from the hard times currently going on in my life. I use social media to feel better but I always end up feeling worse.
I promise to unfollow the people who are hurting my self-esteem instead of helping it. I promise to follow the creatives, the storytellers and the motivators. I promise to use social media to share my story and not to compare my chapter 3 to someone else’s chapter 23. This will be the hardest promise I will do, but I’m determined to reteach my brain how to use social media in a healthy way. And, if I’m not able to do that, I promise to take the time away from it instead.
I want to go home after work and turn my phone off and prioritize my relationship with Matt and my friendships. I want to be present in the conversation.
I want to remind myself that I’m not missing out on anything online by not checking my feed. Instead, by scrolling, I’m missing out on my real life and those moments I will never be able to get back.
I promise to live a more simplistic lifestyle.
there is such beauty in slowing down, watching the waves come in, smelling the coffee, living seasonally, only doing the things you love, being grateful for all that we have and saying thank you for the loved ones in your life who bring you the feeling of LOVE.
I believe that we are all our best selves when we slow down and focus on what’s truly important in our lives. When we pay attention to what we put in our bodies and where we spend our time and money. It’s hard work to slow down and go against the grain.
Our world is busy. It has made us believe that no matter what we want, we can get it with a click of a button. We’re obsessed with trends, fast fashion, two-day shipping and the throw-away lifestyle.
But, what we have to remember is when we throw something away it doesn’t simply go away. It has to go somewhere.
Buying a house with my partner has taught me a lot about slowing down and living a more simplistic, purpose-driven life. I look forward to coming home, cooking delicious food and spending my time recharging in a place that I feel the safest I’ve ever felt in. I love saying yes to the things I enjoy like yoga, walks and rock climbing and honouring myself by saying “no, I don’t want to do that today.”
I look forward to planting a vegetable garden and growing our own food. I look forward to filling our flower beds with sunflowers, lavender and every other flower that brings us happiness. I look forward to convincing Matt that we need to put up a clothesline. I look forward to continuing to compost our food waste and using it to help grow more food. A beautiful circle of life.
I promise that in slowing down, the more simplistic parts of my life will become sacred to me. Slow weekend mornings hold a special place in my heart.
Becoming aware that we aren’t living in our purpose and changing that isn’t easy. It will be the hardest work I will do to create these intentional rhythms in my life to help me grow into myself. But, I want to do this work.
What are you going to do to live a more intentional life to help avoid burn out? Please share with me because I would love to learn other ways people bring slowness into their lives.