I’m officially 23! I’ve learned a lot in the past year that I thought it would be cool to document the top 5 things I learned while being 22.
Okay to start off we have to rewind to me turning 22.
I was living in Thompson, Manitoba and I was working at the newspaper.
For my birthday myself and a load of my friends decided to go big or go home. Our weekend was full of drinking, but in good reason, it was my Taylor Swift birthday!
My friends Monika and Mike hosted my birthday party at their apartment and all my closest friends joined in. We drank a lot, played beer bong, drank a lot more, went to our local bar and pretty much just drank more.
It was a wonderful birthday and we even welcomed Corey “the new guy” into our friend circle that weekend.
My 22nd year was full of moving to a bunch of different apartments in Thompson, making close friends, losing close friends and making the decision to pack my whole life into my car and move to British Columbia.
Since I’ve been in Kelowna I have met some of the kindest, most genuine people I have ever known. I work for a great company, I’ve managed to reconnect with close friends and I finally feel like I’ve reached a comfortable adult like life for the first time ever.
This brings me to what I learned while being 22:
1. Blowing out someone else’s candle doesn’t make yours shine brighter.
This year I have learned a lot about myself and the people I surround myself with. I have had to accept that my high school and college best friends may not be my best friends for life and that’s okay. I’ll always consider them best friends, but best friends just don’t have to talk all the time. I have had to accept that some people drift apart when they finally meet the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with and I’ve had to realize not everyone you meet in life is supposed to be your closest friend.
After realizing all of these things I’ve had my fair share of breakdowns, meltdowns and rants. I have said plenty of hurtful things I wish I could take back.
At the end of the day the saying “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all” really is so true. Just because someone has hurt me in the past does not mean I have to say or do hurtful things to get them back.
If you have to put someone down to feel good about yourself, it’s time to look in the mirror and realize life shouldn’t and doesn’t work that way.
2. Work hard
This may seem like a “duh” lesson… or two small words but it pulls a lot of weight. Since becoming an adult and working full time I have realized that working hard and showing your commitment to a job and passion is key.
If you work hard you will make important work relationships and will meet amazing mentors who will help you succeed and go further and further in life.
3. Learn to love yourself
I’ve said this before countless times, but when I was younger and in a pretty bad relationship my mom told me “You can’t love someone, if you don’t love yourself.” I didn’t love myself for many years and it took being single while I was 22 to learn what my mom really meant.
This past year I have focused on myself. I have worked on myself from the inside out and it’s seriously done wonders on me. I can finally say after many years that I love myself.
I love the woman I am, the career I have, the way my mind works, and pretty much everything I stand for. When you learn to love yourself, you see life in a whole new light.
4. Edit your life
I kind of mentioned this in number one, but I have drastically edited my life down. I have done it in the things I buy, the clothes I have and the friends in my life.
I try to only buy the essentials I need and I don’t do much careless shopping anymore. I own the things I need and have minimized my belongings and my closet in a huge way. The biggest thing I’ve done though this year was choose my friends.
The people I have decided to surround myself with are the best people I have ever met. My friends are there to lift me up and help me succeed but also are there when I need a shoulder to cry on. My friends are the most important people in my life and I would honestly do anything for them.
Moving to Kelowna I have met two of the most important people in my life. The friendships I have with Kelsey and Alex are unlike any others I’ve had. I can count 100% on those girls and I hope those girls know they mean the absolute world to me too. Having friendships without hate, jealousy or tension is seriously one of the best treats in life. It’s so refreshing!
5. Leave your comfort zone
Say yes! Do things that scare you and always be willing to step out of your comfort zone. I’ve committed to saying yes to more things in 2016. It doesn’t have to be huge things like bungee jumping, it can just be the smaller things like going into a new coffee shop instead of your regular one. Smile at a stranger, hold the door open, say yes to going on a date. These are all just small examples of leaving your comfort zone.
Leaving your comfort zone really makes you live and life is all about doing just that… living!
Now that I’m 23 I’m going to be focusing on myself, my career and my friends. I’m going to continue to work hard, always be there for the people I love and try to be the best version of myself that I can be!
This year is going to be the best year yet.
Just because my path is different than yours doesn’t mean I’m lost.