I’ve been reflecting back on the past 365 days and I’ve realized what exactly 2016 has taught me. Spoiler: it taught me A LOT.
When I was at dinner with some friends the other night we were talking about the past year and one of my friends said something along the lines of “You’re so much more confident than you used to be.”
And it’s SO true. I’m finally a confident woman and it feels amazing. So, to celebrate a new year, here are the top 3 things I learned in 2016.
Confidence is beautiful
I’ve NEVER been a confident woman. I am really good at faking it until I make it and sometimes that comes off as confidence. But, here’s a secret for you. I’m probably one of the most introverted people ever. I love my alone time and social situations cause me so much anxiety. If you’ve ever been to a party with me, you’ll know I stay speaking with one or two people all night, because that’s my comfort zone.
That’s changed now! I’m still an introvert and I get freaked out about social situations, but I’m getting better. I will (sometimes) go up to people at parties and begin conversations. It’s weird, crazy and exciting.
I’ve become a confident woman. 2016 was the year of learning how to love myself and work on ME. I am happy to say I LOVE myself. I think I’m beautiful inside and out and I believe I am a good person. I don’t want to come off cocky because that’s not who I am at all, but let me tell you, feeling confident is such an amazing new feeling and I can’t get enough of it.
I don’t see other girls as someone I want to be anymore. I don’t wish I could have nicer hair or more followers on social media. I can walk into a coffee shop and not feel like everyone is staring and judging me. I am finally just happy being me.
Mental health needs to be a priority
I was in a pretty bad spot for a lot of 2016. I was in a bad job which stole my happiness for awhile. It got to a point where I didn’t have a life. I shut myself inside my apartment, didn’t see friends and all I looked forward to was sleeping.
Finally, I woke up one day and realized I needed help. I went and talked to someone and got the help I needed. It was a brave yet scary moment for me, but I knew it had to happen.
Since that day, I have changed jobs and careers. I am not writing sad, depressing news stories anymore, instead I am writing articles about empowering women showcasing the amazing women in my community doing kick-ass things.
I don’t shut myself inside my apartment anymore, I see my friends all the time and sleep is one of the last things on my mind.
Mental health is such a priority for people, but it’s also such a taboo thing to talk about. Even right now I feel like I don’t want to talk about this because I will be judged by people for speaking up and saying I needed help.
But, I have to! It’s a conversation and topic that needs to be talked about more. I hope 2017 will be the year people feel okay talking about their mental health and feeling confident enough to get the help they need if they need it.
If we talk about it like it’s a normal thing (which it is) that everyone experiences, maybe we can save a few lives.
A life without creativity is not a life at all
I’ve always been a creative person. In school, I loved writing, art (even though I’m shit at it) and working on visual projects. I struggled with math and science. I knew from day one that I would work in a creative field. I knew how important it was for me to be creative because it expanded my mind, heart and soul.
This past year I tried to make my life outside of work creative because a life without creativity is not a life at all.
Whether it’s reading a book, walking outside without your phone and looking at the beauty surrounding you or colouring in an adult colouring book, I tried to do something creative every day. It changed my world! It’s not something I’ve really talked about, but it is one of the main reasons why I’m so happy now.
I’ve been trying to disconnect more and instead of scrolling, I’ve been creating art or at least looking at it.
Try it yourself and I swear you will feel your heart grow two sizes.
There is beauty everywhere… but you have to look up from your phone to see it.
2016 was a huge year for me and I wrote another post about it called “Hello 2017”. This was a very wordy post, but I know I needed to say these things. Last year I learned to love myself and this year I’m going to spread my love.
I found I was more confident when I stopped trying to be someone else’s definition of beautiful and started being my own.